Most, if not all, do not comprehend the most significant element of my entire mortal life! Relegated to the realm of ‘Oh, that’ they bypass the significance of a characteristic that has dominated my entire mortal existence – that of being a twin! From the womb to my final breath, I will have experienced mortality in a way distinctly separate from the vast majority that surround me. For those that know little about twins, I submit the following secular findings:

Secular Findings

• Twins - the Most Common Type of Multiple Pregnancy

According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC), twins occur in 31.2 out of every 1,000 live births. Triplets or higher-order multiples account for 80 out of every 100,000 live births.

Interestingly, while significantly more multiples are born now than in past decades, the number is slowly starting to decline.

• Identical Twins - Share All the Same Genetic Material.

Fraternal (dizygotic) twins happen when two separate eggs are fertilized by two different sperm, and they implant in the uterus simultaneously. They share the same amount of genetic material as other siblings who share the same biological parents. That is to say, they are no more similar than siblings born at different times. Additionally, fraternal twins can be the same sex or different sexes.

Identical (monozygotic) twins, on the other hand, develop from a single fertilized egg. This type of twin is rare. They might share a placenta or amniotic sac and have the same DNA. They are either both male or both female. That said, because of environmental factors like their position in the womb, identical twins won't look 100% alike. Identical twins make up about 3% to 4% of live births in the United States. 

Health researchers often examine the influence of both genetic makeups and environments to understand the causes of health conditions. This is often referred to as “nature or nurture.” 

• Mirror Image Twins

Mirror image twins are a type of identical twins - a type of twinning in which the embryonic division occurs, and the twins have mirrored features. 

For instance, if one twin is right-handed, the other might be left-handed. This phenomenon is thought to be caused by the egg splitting later than it would in a traditional identical twin pregnancy. This extra time before splitting means that the fetuses had long enough to develop a right and a left side. Researchers estimate that only 25% of identical twins are mirror image twins.

This type of twinning is due to random variance in physical development processes. Mirror image twins, while having differences such as birthmarks on either side or hair whorls in different directions, still fall under identical twin status based on genetic relationship.

• Multiples Socialize With Each Other in the Womb

After studying them with ultrasound technology during gestation, experts determined that the twins were physically contacting each other.

Performance of movements towards the co-twin is not accidental: already starting from the 14th week of gestation twin fetuses execute movements specifically aimed at the co-twin.

• Parenting Identical Twins 

Parenting identical twins comes with its own special challenges and rewards.

Feeding challenges: Because twins are more likely to be born prematurely, they have serious nutritional needs as newborns, and it can be challenging to keep up with feeding both babies.

Financial pressures: Parents of twins often need to buy double the diapers, clothing, formula, baby food, and equipment as parents of single babies.

Social needs: While twins may look alike, they are different people with unique personalities. Twins are often grouped together but benefit when adults treat them as individuals and encourage them to pursue their interests separately.

Sibling jealousy: Twins can be quite time-consuming, and older siblings may feel left out.

• How to Tell Twins Apart

Even parents can have a difficult time telling their identical twins apart. To tell newborn twins apart, try color-coding their clothing or using name bracelets. As they age, their unique personalities will tell them apart.

• Do identical twins read each other’s minds?

Identical twins have unique ways of communicating with one another. While they cannot actually read each other’s minds, they learn each other’s facial expressions and gestures because they spend so much time together. This gives them unique insight into each other.

• Are mirror twins rare?

Identical twins make up about 3% of live births in the United States. Mirror twins make up less than 1% of live births in the United States!

History

It might be interesting to know how our history as twins developed. As one might surmise, mom and dad did not know they were going to have twins as they entered the Dee hospital that early morning on April 8, 1950. Mom was ushered into the delivery room while Dad waited nervously in the waiting room. At 5:24 am that morning I was delivered. Surprisingly a short time thereafter the doctor announced to my mother: “There’s another one!” At that moment my mother realized she was about to give birth to a second son completing the set of twins. Unfortunately, Jay presented as a breach birth (bottom first rather than head first) which carries with it complications and risks. As explained by my mother; the doctor then turned Jay so he’d present ‘head down’ and proceed with natural childbirth. My mom exclaimed (each time she told the story) that: “That doctor had the biggest hands in the world!” Jay was then born 6 minutes later at 5:30 am. Dad would be notified shortly thereafter that he was now the father of twin boys – no doubt a shock!

Inasmuch as our arrival was unexpected; our parents had not prepared names for twin boys. However, (as I was to discover decades later) names had to be submitted in the delivery room. So, our parents simply named us – baby 1 and baby 2 – on our officially recognized state authorized certificates. We’d receive the names of Ray Ford Davis and Jay Ford Davis on our hospital provided birth certificates prior to our hospital release a few days later. This circumstance led to some significant development’s decades later! The full explanation is provided in a document entitled- “How I Got My Name”.

Inasmuch as two placentas were delivered, my mother always explained to both Jay and I that we were fraternal twins. Hence, we each accepted such for most of our young lives. Yet we all knew that Jay and I looked very much alike. During my college years, I performed some research of my own and discovered that identical twins may share a single placenta or have two separate placentas (such as Jay and I did). Thus, in my early twenties; I informed my mother that she’d been mistaken and given birth to identical twin boys. Additionally, as my research revealed; we twins were actually mirrors of one another (my right-handedness vs Jay’s left-handedness). Thus, I discovered; corrected my mother; and informed Jay regarding our circumstance and relationship. We’ve considered ourselves mirror twins (very rare) ever since.

Personal Experience

While secular observations may supply understanding; they do little to provide insight regarding the actual lives and experiences of mirror twins. Each individual embraces and shoulders the unique opportunities and challenges inherent in their own existence. Commencing at birth (if not before) and ending at death (if not after) each individual applies themselves to the encounters faced and the opportunities for development. Such is no different for a mirror twin – except for a discrete distinction. They have another individual who may (or may not) be influenced by their individual experiences.

Social Impact

From the moment a mirror twin becomes a sentient being; they are aware that a second individual (separate from themselves) exists and interacts in similar ways to themselves. Thus, they are connected in some imperceivable way (to them). A mystery is introduced to each at a very, very young age. While each understands they are an individual; they are constantly cognizant that they are ‘part of a pair’ and thus their born partner enters into (consciously or unconsciously) every decision, every occurrence, every consideration they make. While siblings may experience a close ‘connection’ with a fellow sibling; such is not as pervasive nor constant as with an identical twin.

Clothes

As an example of the pervasiveness of being a twin; both Jay and I were dressed identically through kindergarten. Undoubtedly costs and efficiency were involved in such circumstances; nevertheless, even our dress constantly reinforced our involvement with each other. We were even taught together in kindergarten and the 1^st grade. Being a ‘half’ of a ‘whole’ was ingrained in our psyches from very early childhood. As we progressed through childhood, we began to differentiate. Such differentiation was to be expected as we endeavored to distinguish ourselves while maintaining the valued ‘twinship’ we become naturally accustomed to. Such differentiation amidst ‘twinship’ is not what an individual child experiences. They’re already automatically a distinct individual!

Throughout our lives; Jay and I have ‘obeyed’ an unwritten rule. In the morning when the first twin was getting dressed; they could choose any shirt in their closet! The second twin was now limited to any shirt except the color of shirt his twin had chosen. Differentiation carried throughout life – daily! The purchase of a suit or any other specialized adornment could not be unduly similar. Though parallel in purpose; each purchase required recognizable distinction from the other.

The temptation to simplify by those that interacted with us was significant and recognizable. When a common friend interacted; they would (at times) act surprised to realize that Jay or I might react to a circumstance differently. Though we twins came to accept such surprise amongst friends; such surprise reemphasized the expectation that looking alike would ‘somehow’ automatically be reflected in actions. Which was not always the case!

Such differentiation is not limited to clothes. When Jay and I joined a little league baseball team (together); Jay played first base and I played left field. Inasmuch as we now needed baseball mitts and could no longer rely on borrowed gloves; my father purchased mitts for us. Unfortunately, Dad could only spare enough finances to capitalize on an offering of 2 for 1. That offering settled on first baseman’s elongated mitts. Hence while Jay had the style of mitt he needed; I learned to ‘make do’ in the outfield with an embarrassing first baseman’s glove. When the economics of two were certainly encountered; distinctive functionality periodically took a back seat to financial expediency. Such was the case when we both gratefully received identical shotguns amidst our young adulthood. Please don’t misunderstand. We were grateful to receive such gifts and readily recognized sacrifices to obtain such. Nevertheless; identically given gifts were often a reinforcement that we were ‘half of a pair’ and often recognized as such.

Relationships

As with most things, relationships are influenced by the mirror twin circumstance. While it is true that identical twins develop a unique communication between one another (I know because I’ve experienced it); I cannot firmly declare such communication is telepathic. Such a communication may be an outgrowth of shared DNA, intimate interpretation of life long facial and body interpretations or an intimate knowledge of one another’s shared circumstances. I cannot confirm the source of such communicative sharing; nevertheless having communicated with my twin brother on many occasions in such a manner leads me to acknowledge such means.

Nevertheless; relationships are subject to the mix ups and mistaken identities that plague each twin. During my youth; I often answered to ‘JayRay’ or ‘RayJay’ to accommodate those unable or unwilling to differentiate between me and Jay. Such ‘identity negation’ occurred almost daily and repeatedly by those unwilling to know us sufficiently to recognize our differences. Such chronic mix-ups weren’t just annoying; they undermined our sense of self. Hence, we were doomed by the insensitive to think of ourselves as a ‘half’ of a ‘pair’. "Who am I outside of us?" becomes the question that haunts many twins into adulthood.      

Such mistaken identity was common while attending a university as large as Brigham Young University. Inasmuch as Jay dated a great many young women; it was not uncommon for me to be strolling along a walkway on campus and observe the tell-tale signs of recognition in a passing young lady’s eyes – a young lady I’d never met. Once past me, I’d here ‘Well, don’t say hi!’ in a offended tone. I’d then explain that she knew my brother and not me – hence the mistake. Occasionally I’d have to extend my student identification to convince them of my identity. Such occurrences took place with such frequency that I found myself watching the eyes of young ladies passing me in public places.

After being separated for ~three years (and having been recognized as individuals) I was accosted while familiarizing myself with the gymnasium upon arrival at BYU. Upon entering the men’s locker room; I was grabbled rather roughly by a fellow male student under my arm. Reacting with alarm and raised fists the young man responded with protective confusion and asked what was wrong – identifying me as Jay. Upon clarifying my identity (including student identification) he apologized and we parted. Such were the forms of misidentifications and repercussion that would occur almost daily!

Of particular note is an extended relationship that occurred while Jay and I roomed together at Park Plaza. I had been enamored with a young lady in out complex for some time. Nevertheless, due to my shyness; I’d never approached her in any other way but friendship – I was endeavoring to work up the courage to engage some form of courtship. Nevertheless, while I delayed; Jay (who was more aggressive) engaged the young lady and formed an extensive dating relationship with her – even an engagement. I remained quietly in the background to Jay’s clear pursuance. Such a conflict reinforced that Jay and I experienced similar interests and therefore conflicts (though uninformed) throughout our lives.

Comparisons

As one is naturally wont to do; they draw comparisons in order to allow differentiation in their own minds. Unfortunately, at times and places; such comparisons may be voiced by the observers. As twin brothers, we both faced this ‘judgment game’ frequently. Though seemingly innocent; we were often paraded in settings as objects to remain silent while the obtuse might slight one while aggrandizing the other. Side-by-side evaluations may not just hurt feelings; but they tended to create artificial competitions between us.

Social Package

We were at times treated like a ‘package deal’ – one was not to be without the other. Of particular note is when Jay and I were strongly encouraged to participate in a junior prom by out cousin. She knew a set of girl twins that thought our accompanying them to their junior prom would be a particularly noticeable novelty. Thus, we were to engage in a romantic setting only because we were twin boys dating twin girls. Jay and I both protested but were prevailed upon by our mother in cahoots with our cousin. Though attending; neither of us were enamored by the circumstance and less than enthusiastic as the date unfolded! Though subtle to those encouraging such a circumstance; it was blatantly offensive to Jay and I.

Separation Anxiety

Identical twins are particularly susceptible to separation anxiety because of their bond and extensive time spent together from birth. Having been together for 19 years prior to our separate missions; Jay and I were bound to experience anxiety – even amidst the frenzy of missionary experiences. Owning a car together; being on the tennis team together and tennis companions; being in seminary and school together – all such circumstances (and many more) undoubtedly incurred a measure of loss as we separated to foreign countries 1000’s of miles apart. Speaking for myself; I missed Jay at the outset of my mission and often thought of him in Canada while being in England myself.

Sharing the Spotlight

While certainly aware of our conspicuousness; we seldom (if ever) were uniquely recognized. Birthdays were always for us both (naturally); and achievements rarely involved just one of us. For example; when offered university scholarships in a high school assembly, Jay and I both were awarded token (yet identical) scholarships. Such an award was more embarrassing than impressive. As such occurrences took place; the strange contradiction of wanting to celebrate together simultaneously invoked a craving for individual recognition. In such publicly recognized settings;; we were often referred to as ‘The Twins’ thereby reinforcing our value as a ‘package’ rather than individually.

Establishing Independence

Unfortunately, many parents unconsciously reinforce codependence by treating twins as a unit rather than individuals. The "twin" label often becomes a primary identity marker that overshadows personal traits and preferences. The social assumption that twins should do everything jointly makes this difficult. Hence, Jay and I both endured the headwinds of society (within and without the family) throughout our lives. Such strong headwinds invoked difficulty as we both endeavored to establish independence despite reinforced codependence.

Privacy

What many don't realize is the emotional privacy twins often lack. Twins typically spend thousands more hours in direct company with a sibling than non-twins during their first 18 years. Privacy isn't just about physical space, though shared bedrooms are common for twins. Jay and I spent our first 15 years sharing a bed. This ended when I could no longer accommodate the discord that seemed to dominate our relationship and I moved into a bedroom with multiple siblings. Thus, while Jay enjoyed a room to himself; the remainder of us siblings often were crowded into a separate room together. Though lacking equity; Jay was to experience a private room thereafter (except when finances would no longer accommodate such).

Academic Expectations

Teachers and parents unconsciously expect similar academic performance, creating pressure from multiple  angles. Twins are frequently placed in the same classroom throughout early education, intensifying comparisons; creating a no-win situation where differences are pathologized and similarities taken for granted. Jay and I were taught together in kindergarten and the 1^st grade. Our grades were often compared throughout our academic careers.

Once amidst a family gathering in Hugh’s back yard; I briefly expressed my understanding of Hugh’s position during our childhood. Without hesitation and recognizing the anguish of his circumstance; Hugh responded that such circumstances were genuinely difficult and a miserable remembrance from his youth. Being in our 50’s, I recognized Hugh’s immediate recognition and genuine abhorrence at having such responsibility thrust upon him – just because he was the oldest – was a recurrent remembrance he did not cherish! The upper sibling triangle existed and had been a prevalent occurrence throughout our youth.

Lower Sibling Rivalry

Unlike the upper sibling triangle, the lower sibling triangle was less intense. While it still existed; Rick was a more amenable, less intense brother. Being absolved of responsibility to maintain order; Rick could simply agree to ‘go along’ with whatever a twin purported. And while Rick’s position was not easy; he seemed to ‘weather’ the ‘twin storm’ with an unencumbered anxiety. Perhaps the best example of Rick’s ability to endure the twin’s intensity and skirmishes was our arrival home following a day in high school at Lake Tapps. Having driven home through Auburn and up the canyon; Jay and I had argued (at times heatedly) regarding something. Upon arrival home, we skidded to a cloudy stop in our dirt driveway; threw open our respective doors and quickly exited the vehicle. Rick, residing in the backseat through all of this; sat alone as his twin brothers found refuge from each other outside the vehicle. As Rick has expressed previously; he just sat there thanking Heaven Above that he’d somehow survived the tirade unscathed. As one pictures such a setting, one can readily see that while Rick was witness to much of the conflict between his older twin brothers; his own required patience and needed neutrality saved him from undue involvement and anxiety.  However, I hasten to add that Rick was not without impact.  Once while Jay and I argued in our Lake Tapps kitchen (our parents were gone); Rick entered from another room and slammed a baseball bat down upon a dishwasher top. Standing their holding a splintered baseball bat; Rick expressed in no uncertain terms that he was sick and tired of our conflictive disagreements and wanted them to cease! Staring at our younger brother; having heard and observed his explosion; Jay and I simmered down and went our separate ways. And though impressive; his declaration was not to have a lasting effect.  Nevertheless, it reinforced that the lower sibling triangle had not been easy for Rick.

Questions

There are questions that accompany being an identical twin. Once when walking contemplatively with Jay along a beach in the gathering eventide; Jay voiced a question that had always accompanied his development as a person. He said to me: “I’ve always wondered why I came in the jump seat?” He, of course was wondering why he’d been born second. (Parenthetically, I’d always held ‘being first’ over Jay as a tease.) As we conversed together; I tried to dissuade my brother from believing there was anything to being born 1^st or 2^nd; but I must admit that I believe I failed in endeavoring to emphasize the value of each regardless of birth order.

Of course, I’ve been perplexed at the questions that’ve stirred me throughout life. Questions such as:

• Why was I born a twin?
  • Did Jay and I enjoy a pre-earth relationship that influenced our mortality?
  • If we did have a relationship; what was it like and how would it influence our mortalities?
  • Was our being born twins just happenstance?
  • Did we look alike in our pre-earth circumstance?
  • If we shared a pre-earth relationship; how does such translate into our mortality?
  • Did my being born first mean anything regarding my mortal experience?

Clearly, such questions do not occur within those born individually as single-births. The questions that confront multiple-birth people are distinct to such circumstances. And though common amongst twins, etc.; such questions remain and are often relegated to unanswered queries that affect them and perplex their mortal lives.

Eternal Ramifications

I continue to learn more and more regarding being a twin. In my later years I reread the Savior’s explanation given in Ether 3:16

• Behold, this body, which ye now behold, is the body of my spirit; and man have I created after the body of my spirit; and even as I appear unto thee to be in the spirit will I appear unto my people in the flesh.

Inasmuch as the Savior appeared to the Brother of Jared in Spirit; and inasmuch as He explained that His spirit appeared to be identical to His body ‘in the flesh’; it would be reasonable to surmise that one’s spirit looks like one’s physical body

• Hence, it appears that Jay and I had identical spirits prior to our mortal births.
  • Additionally, in Alma 11:44 we are taught that every thing shall be restored to its perfect frame as it is in mortality.
    • Now, this restoration shall come to all, both old and young, both bond and free, both male and female, both the wicked and the righteous; and even there shall not so much as a hair of their heads be lost; but every thing shall be restored to its perfect frame, as it is now, or in the body, and shall be brought and be arraigned before the bar of Christ the Son, and God the Father, and the Holy Spirit, which is one Eternal God, to be judged according to their works, whether they be good or whether they be evil.
  • Such an understanding leads me to understand that Jay and I will be resurrected to be identical twins! Thus, I shall be an identical twin for eternity! Such is a circumstance that few recognize whilst in mortality.

Single egg dividing into two embryos

During a conversation held at a ‘Davis Campout’ my nurse sister-in-law indicated that there’d been limited time in which we (as babies) had needed to differentiate from one another to avoid being born conjoined twins (sharing a single body). Alarmed at her announcement; I researched the topic and uncovered the following:

• During a typical identical twin pregnancy, the embryo divides at about 13 days after fertilization.

• With a conjoined twin pregnancy, this division is delayed. Sometime between day 13 and day 15, the embryo begins to divide but stays fused together in certain areas of the developing bodies.

Thus, during a 9-month gestation; Jay and I were required to separate within a ~24 hour window. If we’d not achieved such a complete separation; we’d have been severely hampered throughout our mortal sojourns. A sobering thought indeed for twin boys!

Mirror Ramifications

Because Jay and I were mirror twins; we were mirrored in our hand dominance. That is, Jay was left-handed while I was right-handed. To begin with, such difference presented little consideration. The only implication was that Jay was assigned his own ‘place’ at our dinner table. While we sat together at one side of the table; Jay was assigned so that his left elbow would not conflict with his right-handed fellow diner’s elbow. That is; his elbow was free of entanglement there at a corner of the table. Prior to this configuration; Dad had attempted to influence Jay to switch hands. Later it was known to invoke difficulties within the negatively influenced. Jay always had to write in an upside-down fashion so as to avoid smearing that which he’d just written. Though left-handed; Jay batted right-handed in baseball. Yet he caught the ball left-handed. Such were the implications of Jay being left-handed amongst a family of right-handers!

However, there was a deeper significance to being opposite handed. I was to learn in my young manhood regarding how one was ‘handed’ exercised an influence on how one thought. A right-handed person was shown to be ‘left brain’ dominant and a left-handed person was shown to be ‘right brain’ dominant. Furthermore, each side of the brain tended to exercise differing talents. A right-hander (i.e. left brain) while using one’s full brain tended to exercise one’s more logical; more rational talent set. In contrast, a left-hander (likewise using one’s full brain) tended to exercise one’s more abstract; more emotional talent set. Hence, while looking identical on the outside; we were as different as night and day on the inside (where no one could observe), These differences bore out the older we grew. Jay was very artsy and could concoct brilliant drawings, etc. His livelihood was predominantly made through his artful use of language (a known right-brain talent). By contrast; I have made my living engaging in  the logical exercise of computer ‘language’ constructs. Following a fateful fore ray into psychological pursuits; I rested on the exercise of mathematics and achieved a degree in such.

Thus, unknowingly; throughout our youth; Jay and I thought distinctly differently about the world that surrounded us. Is it any wonder that we found it very challenging to agree on much at all. Jay used to refer to me (sardonically) as ‘robot man’ displaying a severe lack of emotion (as the rationally focused might). Likewise, I used to believe I couldn’t observe the weather without getting a severely contemptuously comment (as an emotionally focused might). Clearly though we loved each other (I’m convinced) we were often at logger-heads as we shared opinions. Ours was a complex relationship that few (including family members) truly understood. Observed to be alike and treated alike, as observers might; we were in actuality very different – hence the misunderstanding that each of us lived with!

Beloved

While challenges certainly permeated our complex relationship; I cannot deny that I genuinely loved and still love my twin brother. While we didn’t always agree; I knew that I could trust him with my very life. He had a truly delightful laugh and I always appreciated talking with him as we grew older. I remember several experiences that brought home to me how much I loved him. Once while playing 3-person racquetball at BYU; Jay was struck in the mouth by the other individual’s backswing. Hit squarely in the mouth he immediately grabbed his mouth and bent over with a blood curdling groan. We all immediately ceased as he stood stooped over; blood running down his grasping hands. I remember being absolutely grief-stricken at my brother’s circumstance; and plead a silent prayer that his teeth were alright. Though we immediately ceased playing and sought southing treatment; he finally turned out ‘ok’ and spent a week or so in mouth and jaw soreness. Nevertheless, I was reminded at that moment that I dreaded any significant difficulty Jay might experience. Another occurrence took place at a family gathering at Hugh’s. Jay’s son Jared (a preteen child) was swinging on a swing set at the side yard. Suddenly, Jared rounded the corner of the house with his hands covering his face. Running to his side, I learned that he’d been struck in the face by a violently swung empty swing. I did what I could to assist him while others rushed to his aid. As Jared went to get aid; I found that I had to locate a private spot where I could silently express my grief. As I did so, I realized how much I cared for my brother’s children and therefore my brother. I’ve not forgotten as time passed; and I’m frequently aware of the extent to which I did and now still love my brother. In the midst of Jay’s viewing (prior to his funeral) I repeatedly took his cold hand in mine (despite onlooking scprn) knowing I’d not see him again in this life. I knew I’d miss him terribly. And I look forward to greeting him on the other side of the veil!

Finally, I experienced numerous occasions amidst my personal challenges suffered during divorce. I saw how very much my suffering invoked suffering in Jay. It was more than most realized. Though I knew I’d need to withdraw from Jay and family in order to minimize their innocent sorrow; I knew that Jay would nevertheless feel agonizing grief as his twin suffered. Unable to eliminate; I did the best I could and was reminded how much he loved me - to suffer so.

As time passed and we recovered from prior circumstances; I was reminded of Jay’s intellectual prowess. Having developed intriguing ideas; I arranged to meet with Jay for a potential parlay of talents into an opportunity for both of us. We were to meet at Thanksgiving Point near Lehi. At the appointed hour we both met in his vehicle and began sharing thoughts. Jay seemed positive regarding our possibilities and I also thought our meeting was going well.  Then suddenly we seemed to ‘stick’ on one or two points of our shared proposal. We were both dismayed by the direction of our conversation; and I finally realized that we were both so very willful and different that a collaboration would be difficult indeed (if not detrimental to us both). I indicated that our hopeful collaboration was not going to enjoy fruition and exited his vehicle. I don’t remember being sadder than ever before as I walked across the parking lot to my vehicle. I was genuinely sorrowful that I didn’t believe we’d be able to dissuade our differences and enjoy a loving union. I Still do.

Life with Jay

Such has been life with my dear twin companion Jay! Though I teased Jay unmercifully; it was my way of expressing my love for him without getting too sappy (which neither of us would appreciate). When unencumbered by the strains and worries of life; Jay was a genuine delight to be around. He had a zest for the opportunities and challenges of life. He always contributed to those surrounding him and frequently shared the wisdom he’d gained - with his beloved twin. I remember much of the wisdom he shared with me over the years and decades of our life together. I was and am blessed to be so connected with a soul so devoted to truth and righteousness!